Hi families,
Hoping you found last week’s article beneficial and were able to implement some of the strategies.
This week we continue to look at the next 7 strategies to help you raise caring and considerate children. They are simple to follow and sometimes just a matter of rephrasing our words.
Happy reading,
Ms Jodie
Strategies to Raise a Caring and Compassionate Child
- Acknowledge kindness. Be sure to show your child that you notice when someone does something nice. For example, if someone slows down to let you exit a parking lot at a busy intersection, say, “It was really nice of that driver to let me out.” Likewise if your own child treats someone nicely, be sure to acknowledge and praise her effort.
- Understand that your child’s perception of differences in others comes into play. Young children notice differences in people, just as they notice them in animals and colors of crayons, so assume the best. If your child says something socially inappropriate, it’s important to explore the comment calmly. First ask, “Why do you say that?” Then you can correct the misunderstanding by more fully explaining the situation.
- Be sensitive to messages that your child picks up from the media. Children are just as likely to imitate kind actions they see in movies and read about in books as they are to act out other types of scenarios. Be aware of the programs and movies your child watches and be available to talk about what they see. Also, encourage reading books that focus on caring and compassion.
- Explain that calling someone names or excluding him from play can be as hurtful as hitting. If you hear your child calling someone a “poo-poo head” in the sandbox, go right into problem-solving mode with both children. Point out how the child who was called a name is upset: “Can you see the tears on his face?” Recognize that the real problem may be that the name-caller wants the giant sand bucket. Ask, “If you want something, what’s another way you can get it without hurting somebody else?” It’s also important to make sure the child who has been called the name isn’t feeling victimized, and encourage your child to apologize.
- Avoid setting up competition within your family. If you say, “Let’s see who can clean up the fastest,” you risk setting your kids up as rivals. “When children are pitted against one another in an effort to win at anything,” Kohn says, “they learn that other people are potential obstacles to their success.” Instead, you could encourage them to work together to get the job done and praise them for their group effort.
- Show your child how to help people in need. You can encourage your child to donate a toy he has outgrown to the annual toy drive, while you buy a set of blocks to give away. He can also help you make cookies for a shelter and come with you when you visit someone in the hospital or nursing home.
- Be patient with your little one. Kindness and compassion are learned and life presents challenging situations even to adults. Being a loving parent and a great role model will go a long way toward raising a wonderful, tolerant human being.
